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    Oct022011

    Why Can't She Just Be Honest?

    Why is it that women drag out relationships? Why is it that women can’t be honest and just say that they do not like the person? At the same time, why do women expect the opposite from men? DJ

    DJ, great question. Women are only doing themselves a disservice in not being honest. Unfortunately, women are often taught to be polite and women are also conditioned to be afraid of confrontation. These two characteristics combined often result in a woman who does not speak her mind. That's often why women stay in the wrong relationship. They may stay because they have low self-esteem, and either don't think they can find better even though what they are in doesn't work, or they are afraid to be on their own. They also might think they can change the other person, which is a recipe for disaster. It is unfair that  women want honesty, and often can't be honest themselves. I do agree with you that it should be a two-way street with honesty.

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    some guys who can't be honest either about the other girls they're seeing. They should just be honest that they're players.

    October 2, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAleesha

    Sometimes, women think they don't "deserve" better. Women are conditioned to "work on relationships," and think "I've invested so much time." Time, it's all a learning experience to find out what you don't want and what makes us better mates/partners/spouses. There is also the phrase, "the devil you know is better than the one you don't." Don't you just love that one? So, ladies, grow a pair, speak up, or forever hold your peace. Honesty is really the gate to a great relationship.

    October 3, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterLisa Whitlock

    It's not a women or men thing, it's a weak persons thing.

    Aleesha - Dating more than one person doesn't make them a player, lying about it does.

    Lisa -So, ladies "and Gentleman" grow a pair, speak up, or forever hold your peace. Honesty is really the gate to a great relationship. Fixed it for you.

    October 4, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAOC Johnny

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