Am I A Loser 'Cause I've Never Been Married?
Sunday, October 9, 2011 at 12:01AM 
Lennie, most of my girlfriends from college are married, and I'm not. It's like that saying "always a bridesmaid, never a bride." Is there something wrong with me? I just haven't found the right guy, but when I tell them that, they say I'm too picky. I want to get married, I just don't want to make a mistake and end up divorced.
Dear Never Been Married:
Reminds me of that movie Never Been Kissed with Drew Barrymore. If I recall right in the movie, she felt the same way about romance as you do about marriage. There is nothing wrong with being single. And, according to a recent article in the New York Times nearly 50% of the adult population in America are single. The sad fact is, as stated in the article, we miss out on all the advantages (tax, medical, etc) that married people have. I think you are wise in waiting for the right one, rather than marrying out of desperation, need, pressure or insecurity. Stick to your principles and your prince will appear.
Reader Comments (2)
On the flip side, she could have found her prince three times, divorced two and is now thinking she shoulda coulda woulda.......waited! Take your time is right!
You need to be at a certain level of maturity before you can get married, then you need someone like you in many respects, then you need to be able to grow together.
This is a difficult combination to achieve.
It shouldn't worry anyone that they haven't accomplished these steps yet. If you set yourself these goals, you will achieve them.