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    Feb202011

    Should I Stay Or Should I Go, Now?

    Dearest Lennie, I've been in a long term relationship for 3 years and he hasn't asked me to marry him yet. Should I issue an ultimatum? I do love him but...

    Dear Long Term, sounds like you have a case of the "why by the milk" scenario going on. See my blog Silent Night, Horny Night December 2010. If a man hasn't realized in three years, make that ONE year, that you're the best woman he's ever going to meet, then he's not suddenly going to wake up one day and decide that. Sad to say, but he's keeping his options open. Walk away expecting nothing more than to be free of a commitment-phobic man who is not respecting you. The best that will happen is a few months later, he'll wake up and come after you with a nice big apology and an equally large engagement ring (happened to a friend of mine). The worst that will happen is you'll find another man, one who doesn't need to waste three years of your life trying to figure out what he wants with his. Beyoncé had it right: if he likes it then he "shoulda put a ring on it."

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    Women, sometimes you may have to keep your legs crossed to get what you want. We men love free pu__y. I was that guy who woke up 6 months later bringing her an engagement ring . She said yes and, dumped the interim 6 month guy who was quite surpised, I am told. Now, I have a 20's daughter whose guy has spent 3 years trying to figure out his own life, while getting free pu__y. You have to draw the line somewhere, sooner than later...

    February 21, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterHatetraffic

    Not so fast, Long Term. Have you mentioned to him that you are ready to get married? You didnt mention that if you have. If not, is he supposed to be a mind reader? Maybe he thinks you are happy with things the way they are. Maybe he is trying to get bills paid and gone so that when you do get married, you wont have that burden over both of your heads. It is about communication dear. Talk to him and see where you stand. That maybe all it takes. However, if you do as Lennie suggested, be prepared to deal with the results. You have spent 3 years with him. That means a lot. Dont throw it away so quickly just because someone who doesnt know your man, says so.

    March 20, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterBarry

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