I have been hanging out with a really great girl who I would like to be just friends with, but its tough since we keep talking. Also talking to my ex who is visually everything I'm looking for. She is funny but really insecure and jealous. She also has nothing going on in her life, no hobbies or anything, so I find that there isn't a lot to talk about with her. All she really wants to do is shopping, gym. Although she is an amazing cook. The other girl is beautiful, with a ton of energy. She is very dynamic but in my opinion she is too popular. I say popular in a sense that she always has men after her and seems to slightly lead them on. Now I get to the shallow part. I know my ex will always look the way I want her to. The other, although she is fit now I know it wont stay like that very long. It probably shouldn't matter but to me it does. When it comes down to it I'm actually really thinking about the visual part more than anything and that seems horrible. What are your thoughts on this? I know, I'm being shallow.
Dear Shallow, we all know men are very visual creatures, but there are no guarantees anyone will stay the same....even you. Relationships should be founded on similar interests and values—not on how someone looks. Ultimately, you're going to do what you are going to do. Just don't go judging women who evaluate a man based on his finances when you are evaluating women based on their looks—double-standards—all the best with your decision.