Lennie, I was married once to a man I loved. He turned out to be a deadbeat who suffered from depression and I basically supported him for a few years. Now I'm dating someone new who is very successful. It's only been six months, yet he's madly in love with me and wants to marry me. I'm not sure how I feel. I don't want to marry for money, but I also don't wind up with another deadbeat.
Dear Love or Money:
I can see how you would not want to repeat the past. Not knowing your finances or age, it's difficult to advise you. Most women are looking for a man they can rely on, even if they have their own job and independence. This current man seems to be reliable, but if you're not in love it may be difficult to stay married. I know I couldn't do that. It may be that you're afraid to fall in love again, because of how deeply disappointed you were by the deadbeat. Proceed at your pace, and ask the new guy to slow down on the 'happily ever after' talk and give yourself a chance to feel. You never know, you could fall madly in love with this guy and have it all.