Lennie, I've been with my boyfriend now for almost two years. We live together, get along great, and we're talking marriage. There's only one bad thing. When we first started dating, he told me he doesn't want kids! I really want kids, but I really liked him at the time, so I thought maybe over time if we were still dating, things would change. How do I bring up the kids convo again without seeming like a fake who led him on?
Dear Kid Lover, when a man says he doesn't want kids, he usually means it. Most men speak their mind and don't waffle on important life-changing issues like that. I'd say there is no time like the present to have this conversation. If you want children, and he doesn't, that's not going to change a few years down the road. What's likely to happen is your eggs will be older, and you will be increasingly frustrated and resentful and your relationship may suffer. Get a firm 'yes' or 'no' now, before you waste more precious time. Good luck!