New Year’s Eve is just around the corner and while everyone is busy making plans to celebrate with friends, family, or lovers, I’m opting out. Last year I went to Vegas for three nights with a friend and partied like a rock star at Tryst, Tao and The Bank. Actually, she partied. I babysat, ensuring her safe return to the hotel room each night, er…morning. This year, I was invited to Aspen, but I don't want the male friend who invited me to think he’d finally get into my pants just because we’re both single on New Year’s Eve. So, I will be ringing in the New Year alone. While I am quite comfortable with being alone, this is a time of year when I will feel not just alone, but lonely. Absent of family, friends or a lover to share the night with. The fact is I would rather celebrate alone than be in some bar with a bunch of people I do not know or care to know trying to convince myself that I am having a good time just because it’s New Year’s Eve.
It seems rather impossible for everyone in world to have a good time on the same night. Murphy’s law alone suggests that it’s not going to happen. And if you believe in energy, then you'll probably agree that it’s not possible to have all that good energy without a little bad. The universal karmic scale would be out of whack. So if your New Year’s activities don’t go exactly as planned, don’t sweat it. Why not celebrate New Year’s Eve June 31st instead? It’ll be easier to get into restaurants, and they won’t charge you an arm and a leg for a couple of noisemakers and decorations added to the regular fare that you would get any other night of the year. I may just go to a movie or I may make truffle tagliatelle and drink a bottle of Cristal on my own. One thing I won’t do is let my loneliness get the best of me.
Many people think suicide rates are highest during the holiday season. This is a misconception perpetuated each year by people who don’t do their research. According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, the holiday season is the time of the year with the least amount of suicides. The highest suicide rates are in the spring and fall. So while you may feel a little lonely over the holidays, don’t confuse it with depression, and certainly don’t off yourself just because you’re sitting at home alone watching the ball drop. If nothing else, think about how difficult it will be for your landlords to rent your apartment. Wait, you might hate your landlords. Quick, think about something else! Who will feed your cat? You haven’t written a will yet! Okay, so it’s a little morbid to talk so lightly about suicide, but I’m trying to cheer you up!
Whatever you do for New Year’s Eve, please don’t drink and drive. Consider taking a cab or a car service. I recently shared a car service with three friends to go to a holiday party. It was $270 including tip for the night, or $67.50/person. That’s a whole lot cheaper than running a red light, which costs about $350, or a DUI, which can cost you your job. Have a happy and save 2011.