Author Matt Titus recently wrote an article called The Top 5 Bedroom Moves That Will Rock His World for BettyConfidential. Being a rather sexual woman, I tend to agree with Matt’s suggestions – they are all moves that I’ve employed and they have proven highly effective. But, maybe that’s because I employed them all on the same night. While Matt’s advice is for how women can rock a man’s world (don’t we do that by just agreeing to have sex with him?), I thought it might be useful for my male readers to hear how they can rock a woman's world in the bedroom. So, I asked a few friends and a loyal readers, and of course drew from my own experience, and here’s what I have come up with.
1. TAME THE LIZARD: There should be no frantic tongue darting like a lizard on crack. You are not searching for that stuck popcorn husk between her second and third molar, you are trying to seduce her and make her hot. Suction also plays no part in kissing. Women hate hickeys – we hate disfigurement of any kind. Kisses should be soft and sensual. A good, long sexy kiss will never go unappreciated.
2. TAKE THE SLOW TRAIN DOWNTOWN: Women are all about foreplay. We want our nipples and toes sucked, and the nape of our neck and the back of our knees kissed. We have so many erogenous zones on our bodies. Don’t just go for the obvious one. Take some pleasure in pleasuring. We like a slow build… little waves of ecstasy leading to that big tsunami every man is hoping for. You cannot race to the finish line with this one guys. The reward is worth the investment, even if your jaw hurts and your tongue feels like it might fall off.
3. I WANT YOUR HANDS ON ME: Sinead O’Connor said it best, “Put'em on, put'em on, put'em on me”. Start with a slow, deep massage. Women love to be touched. She doesn’t not want to give you a lesson on how to please her, so pay close attention to how she reacts when you touch her. That is the lesson. Watch how her body responds when you kiss her, tickle her, or move your hands up and down her body. She will withdraw if she doesn’t like something, she will reposition herself if you are using an ineffective angle. She will give you clues about what you are doing right and what you are doing wrong more than she will ever say it.
4. AVOID WHIPLASH: Don’t bang her senselessly for an hour just to prove you’ve got game. She would much rather have repeat action that an hour marathon. Tantric sex is not where it’s at. She wants sex. A break. Sex. A break. She knows you are a man. You don’t have to prove it to her.
5. SET THE MOOD: This does not mean popping in a nasty porno where a girl is getting gangbanged. While some women may appreciate that, most women would rather see something more erotic like an Andrew Blake film, or simply leave the imagery to their imagination. Light some candles, put on some sexy music, make sure your bed has clean sheets and plenty of pillows. Maybe even splurge on some lingerie or toys - never recycle. Out with the old girlfriend; out with the old toys. If you’re giving her a toy, wrap it up like a gift for her with some sexy panties, or a garter and stockings. Women love gifts. They make us feel special. Don’t just pull something out of a drawer and dust it off. That’s unhygienic not to mention completely disrespectful and gross.
6. UNLEASH THE TIGER WITHIN: A little aggressiveness like gentle hair pulling when in doggy style will go along way to heightening her pleasure. A firm smack on the ass can also arouse, as long as it doesn’t leave bruising. Most women are willing to go that extra mile in the experimental department, but we don’t want to admit it. We'd rather be gently guided in that direction than come across like slutty whores.
7. TALK IT UP: Women enjoy a little dirty talk, but we don’t like a play by play in the moment commentary like we’re watching a football game. We do not want to here “What am I doing?” We know what you’re doing. You’re sticking your d*ck in us. It’s not a pop quiz or a lecture, so don’t ask us or tell us. You need to get a little creative on the script. It should be natural and organic to the moment.
Okay, so you may have noticed, the top 5 for men became the top 7 for women. Why? Well, women just need a little more of everything!