3 Male Myths About Hot Women
Wednesday, May 25, 2011 at 12:01AM Here’s a little secret that I want to share with you men out there- hot, sophisticated women, particularly in their 30s and 40s, don’t get hit on as much as you think. In this video, I'll explain three male myths about hot women and why it's actually a great idea to approach a hot women if you see her sitting alone at a restaurant having dinner.
Myth #1: Men assume hot women are not single or there's something wrong with them. Not True. Surprisingly there are a tremendous number of hot, single women out there with nothing wrong except that they work and have little time to socialize and meet men. If she's single, it may be she's just waiting for a great guy like you!
Myth #2: Men assume she wants someone equally hot and that they're not in her league. Not True. Men are visual creatures and they check out women's body, but it doesn't mean that women evaluate men the same way. You might think she’s looking for a millionaire with a body like a guy on the cover of Muscle & Fitness, but chances are she's just looking for a great guy.
Myth # 3: Men assume that attractive women are all bitches, because they get hit on all the time. Not True. Attractive women don't get hit on as much as you'd think, because men make these assumptions and don't approach them. And often these women are approached by the sleazy guys they don't want to attract, because they're the only ones with the cohones to hit on them. It doesn’t mean she’s a bitch, just because she’s attractive. There are a lot of attractive women who are really modest about their looks. Plus since they really aren't being hit on all the time, they’re not going to be bitchy. They’re going to be flattered.
In conclusion, you should definitely approach hot women. If a hot woman may seem reserved, it's likely because she's been approached in a sleazy, sexual way so many times that she has some defenses up. Be a gentleman, talk to her like she's a person not a sex object, and she's be impressed. This is where you can benefit from other men's mistakes.
Reader Comments (5)
Lennie, well said. Funny you say about the phone. Always figured she doesn't want to be bothered if texting. Perceptive of you. You that hot woman sitting alone? I'd assume you were taken. Makes no sense your single. Having read enough of your blog, I know there's nothing wrong with you! Except that your not with me. Jack
Awe, Jack. Sweet of you to say. Only thing wrong with me is I work too much. But I'm willing to give that up for the right guy! Ha ha. Glad you liked the video.
Lennie, your advice is well taken. There is no doubt that women alone in public do want men they find reasonably attractive to approach them. There is another side to this equation, though. When women are alone in public they often put up their shields 100% of the time either by habit or out of fear that they will get approached by a guy they are NOT interested in. Whether justified or not, men to interpret this signal as "Do not approach," and from that we derive the lame excuses you're citing in your post. There is a difference between focusing on your smartphone and actively participating in your environment. If you're a woman eating alone and you're noticing the people around you and even making eye contact with interesting men, your odds of being approached will go up. If you're focused on your phone, book, or your own thoughts then men will have a harder time piercing your bubble. You want to make it a little easier for the guys that are less bold about cold approaching attractive women in general. It takes two to tango.
Agree with all of these but no more so than #1!!! I know many fabulously hot single women who are single for the very reason you described! They just live full lives and refuse to settle. These same girlfriends have told me that some men feel it necessary to ask if something is wrong with them when they try to pick up on them! What the hell is that about?
Jason, I agree with you entirely. If a woman makes the effort to dress up and go out for dinner on her own, she mustn't leave out the moat important accessory: her smile!