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3 Reasons Women Should Initiate Sex

I hear a lot of women in long term relationships talk about how infrequently they have sex with their man. Sometimes it’s just once a week, sometimes its only once or twice a month. And inevitably it’s the man that initiates sex. Okay, I know you’re tired, I know you’re working your butt off having a career, keeping the house together, and caring for children or pets or what have you. But, if you do not have sex with your man regularly, his mind is going to wander, and eventually his body might too. 

Here are three reasons a woman should initiate sex with her man: 

REASON #1: It will make you feel empowered and you won’t view sex as an obligation or chore. You will view it as something playful, sexy and fun. Especially, if you set the mood with candles, music and sexy lingerie. And you might just start looking forward to sex again! 

REASON #2: It will make your man feel sexy and wanted. If you make him feel special, he will perform better, he'll be in a better mood, and you'll get along better. He may even go out of his way to show you how much he appreciates you.

REASON #3:  The more you keep your man satisfied, the less likely he is to wander. He may still look at other women and think about them, but he’s a lot less likely to act on his thoughts if you keep him feeling desired. He won’t feel a need to go elsewhere to get his ego—or other things—stroked.

Check out my video to hear more of what I think on this subject, and remember: a happy man makes for a happy woman! 

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Reader Comments (6)

Valid point. Have to admit that I just don't have the energy half the time. Gonna try your tactic. I could use a new car! Ha. That was funny. Think I gotta lot of making up to do first.

June 1, 2011 | Unregistered Commentermarried_in_AZ

Intimacy is one of the most important aspects in a relationship, and I am pleased that you have stated that physical intimacy is what men desire and need in a relationship for reasons above physical desire. In this respect, which is perhaps not common place to women or their experiences, sex brings a man both physically and more importantly emotionally closer to their partner.

I fought this for four years with someone I had wanted to marry and had bought a ring for. Unfortunately this did not change. Countless romantic evenings, events, and straight honesty to address the issue did nothing with respect to her attitude. In summary, two very comparable people ended a relationship which should have lasted.

Yes, "rewards" will come, but please think of a new car as a gift of love not a gift of sex... with genuine men, who are true to their partner, the totality of the relationship means more than a simple orgasm.

I do hope that your video reaches many women out there as relationships are complex and frustrating... and of course men have their own discrepancies which are equally difficult for the female persuasion to deal with. However with that being said, I would like to see great men and women get over these trivial problems and start maintaining what they are capable of,,, long lasting, amazing relationships,


ps: I came across this article from a female friend via social media, I am from Canada

June 1, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterP

Hi Paul,

Great comment. Nice to see that my blog is once again reaching a broad international audience and resonating!


June 1, 2011 | Registered CommenterLennie Ross

Hey Lennie,

Thanks for your response. I have just discovered we have a mutual friend, which is how I came across you blog (email me if you would like to know who). As far as commenting on issues that are important to me, I will always post my opinion!


June 1, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterP

I have to agree with you Lennie, especially the part about keeping him satisfied. After a long time of him always initiating sex, he told me it made him feel bad that he was always 'asking for it' and that I never 'wanted it'. The truth is I did want it, but by being more proactive about getting it from him, we were both happier with the outcum :)


June 2, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJennifer

Lennie, i like your stuff! You seem sincere, genuine and down to earth which is why you keep me engaged.

June 3, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterStan

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