Salt and Pepa’s here, and we’re in effect. Want you to push it baby. Push it good. P-Push it real good—as long as it’s not a baby stroller, you’re pushing.
Sandra Bullock kicked Jesse's ass to the curb when she caught him cheating with not one but several side dishes, and proceeded with her plans to adopt baby Louis anyway. This was initially a commitment she was going to make with her then husband. Celebrity women such as Sandra Bullock and Madonna have oodles of dough and can afford to adopt. They can afford a nanny (or two) along with their bodyguards, personal assistants, and countless other staff. Brad and Angie have a basketball team of nannies for their Brady Bunch of six. For the average single woman, such as myself, adopting a child is a luxury one can ill-afford.
Susan Spencer, author of Briefcase Essentials, states in her Huffington Post article The Mommy Trap that according to the Census Bureau's 2010 Population Survey, five million divorced, single-mother families live in the United States. Over half of these mothers receive no child support. Although greater than three-quarters of single-mothers work, they and millions of children as well, are living at or below the poverty level. A single-mother's money woes are actually a double whammy because she has to support herself and her children. Spencer refers to something she called The Jack and Jill Syndrome: Jack and Jill fell in love, got married, had kids and Jill quit her job to raise them. Then Jack left Jill, and Jill became a single mother with no savings, no child support, and no career and her life came tumbling after.
Men like Franklin Slocombe, contributor for The Urban Dater, says in his article The Kid Conundrum enough with the baby talk—unless it's in the bedroom and she's wearing a schoolgirl uniform and sucking a lollipop, or other hard candy, and recounting on what a bad girl she has been. According to Franklin and many men I have had the displeasure of dating, talking about babies, stopping to look in a stroller, or sighing when a woman and child pass by is inappropriate dating behavior.
Women just can't seem to catch a break. Now we can't even talk about marriage and children, because its too much pressure on men. Really? Try working, looking beautiful, working out, being sexy, making dinner, hiding our PMS from the world (because it's also unacceptable) and spending what little is left of our hard-earned money on lingerie, sex toys, makeup and bikini waxes so we can please our man—or even just compete to get the attention of a man. On the average woman’s salary, there will be nothing left to pay the rent, let alone raise kids and save for retirement. Oh, and don't forget the condoms we have to buy so the men in our lives cannot use the excuse of having run out—an excuse that we hear all too often. Do you think we're retarded as well as desperate? Try neither. The only thing we are desperate for is a decent man.
Those of us who don't have the luxury of being single baby mammas are racing against the biological clock to find a man who is not afraid of the "M" word (marriage) or the "B" word - and I don't mean bisexual. If we are up front about our wishes for the future, we are labeled pushy and desperate. If we don't mention it, we can waste precious time in the wrong relationship. We are damned either way. Someone needs to mature into a keeper, and it’s not us.
Maybe we all just need to be lesbians, to live with other women, have sex with each other (which is probably better anyway), save money by not trying to compete for the attention of a man, and have babies. Two baby momma’s have got to be better than one. And, we can have all the hot, slutty lesbian sex we want. And you men who cannot grow up and commit are not invited to the party. You can't even watch it on video.