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I See Stylish People

Women love fashion. We love how styles come and go, we love fabrics, textures, and patterns, and we understand color. Men, on the other hand, couldn't care less. Men just think, “I like red. I like green,” and put it together without another thought. Red and pink. Red and green. Green and some other weird shade of green. What-ever! To them, it’s just clothing. It’s sole purpose to keep their private parts covered and perhaps to keep them warm. Come on, guys! There’s way more to it than that.

How does this have anything to do with a blog on dating in Los Angeles? Well, despite the abundance of metrosexual males in this fair city, plenty of men still don’t know how to dress themselves. I often find myself looking at the way a man is dressed and wondering if he's color blind. Many men use this excuse, when in fact only 8% of men suffer from color blindness. I just think their mothers never trained them to care about what works and what doesn’t when it comes to fashion. 

Most men determine what they are going to wear by the sniff test. They smell the pits of a shirt and check the pair of pants for stains. If it’s clean, it’s good to go. Never do they ponder whether a blue shirt will compliment their blue eyes. They’re not looking in the mirror asking themselves “do these stripes make me look fat?” Nuh-uh. They simply couldn’t give a rat’s ass about any of that. Sure, they may consider a “power tie” for an important business meeting, but here in Los Angeles, that’s more likely to be a power pair of jeans.

Women spend eight years of their life shopping and nearly one year deciding what to wear. The average American woman has an annual clothing budget of $1729. The average Los Angeles woman wouldn’t think twice about spending that on a designer handbag or pair of shoes. This doesn’t even factor in what women spend on beauty maintenance. Those mani/pedis add up, not to mention hair color, cuts, cosmetics… okay, so I am mentioning them. You get the drift.According to the Consumerism Commentary, the number one tip for frugality: don’t be a woman obsessed with beauty. The fact is, women spend this money on beauty and fashion to impress and attract men. 

All I’m saying, guys, is given all we do to attract and impress you, the least you could do is put a little more thought into your clothes than is this shirt clean? We know you hate shopping. Or at least you hate shopping with us—probably, because you’re scared you might get stuck with the bill. There are certain looks that women find simply repulsive in men—from socks and sandals to Speedos. On behalf of all women in Los Angeles, I decided to Google fashion consultants and personal shoppers to help point the garishly garbed in the direction of style. Despite this being a town full of TV and movie wardrobe stylists, I couldn’t find a single website for anyone providing a quality shopping and styling service for men. Tragic. If my book doesn’t make it to the NY Times bestseller list (hurry up and buy a copy!), I may have just found my next career move. Any takers?


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you give men way too much credit....more like, sniffing random clothes on the ground -- thinking, 'oh, well thats not too bad..."...thats how we do it, uh-huh!

August 17, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterRH

This is just one man's opinion, but:

I think men would be totally fine with women dialing it back as far as fashion is concerned. No only would we be fine about it, we would be more attracted to you ladies if we didn't think that you were going to put more effort into your wardrobe than the relationship (or child-rearing), or that you might leave us if we can no longer support your shopping trips.

Lets be honest; women spend that much time on their clothes because they enjoy it (which is fine), not because they think it will snag them a man. If they really think that, then they don't understand men. Believe it or not, we have pretty good radar for what is natural beauty and what is trickery. If given the choice between a naturally attractive woman with terrible style, and an unattractive woman with great style, we will choose the former every time. If given the choice between an unattractive woman with great personality and an unattractive woman with great style, we will choose the former as well.

Style is far down on the totem pole. It can even be a hindrance, as it makes you look ungrounded and we feel like we can't be comfortable around you. All we really care about is that you are fit, and your hair is somewhat nice. Aside from that, we would be totally comfortable with you wearing some russian village-girl dress (or whatever the opposite of high fashion is) for most of your lives. Just have the basics for nice events so that we want to take you places.

Men today don't know how to dress themselves, that much is true. It's a complex issue. I'll say this though: the clothes that women generally like to see on their men, we hate. We don't dress for women. We don't dress for other men. We pick what we like, even if we look clueless. It is what it is. We probably could learn how to compromise on the issue once in a while though.

January 3, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterAlexander

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