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3 Questions Women Ask Men

When a woman meets a man, she wants to determine whether or not he's relationship material. There are three questions she always asks: What do you do for a living? What kind of car do you drive? And, where do you live? Don't be offended guys. Sure, these questions all point towards financial status, but there are plenty of other reasons she's asking these questions.

Men like talking about themselves. It makes them feel relaxed and confident. These questions allow the man to talk and take the pressure off the woman doing all the talking, which can make her look like a “chatterbox.” She may not be sport savvy enough to talk about the Final Four or the NHL Playoffs, and she may want to avoid a heated political debate about the Middle East or the mid-term elections. And, she knows you don’t want to talk about shopping! Asking about your work, car, and home are ice-breaker subjects that are easy for you to talk about and also interesting to her.


YOUR CAR: Follow the format of other Wednesday blogs in regard highlighting and
spacing Cars tell her about your personality and status. According to a study from Rice
University, “driving a Porsche communicates that you’re interested in uncommitted sex.”
A man who drives a BMW sedan or an Audi is probably upscale and practical. He is not
spending beyond his means and is more likely to be family-oriented than say a Porsche or
Ferrari driver. Your car does give her an indication of your success, which is important to
her if she’s looking for a responsible man who can provide for his family, but it’s also a
topic in which many women are well-versed.


YOUR JOB: Any smart woman knows that a man defines himself through his career.
She also knows that its an easy subject for you to talk about, and since she probably
doesn’t have the same career, she will be able to ask lots of questions and keep the
conversation flowing. It’s not just about how much Louis Vuitton you can afford. Your
job does give her a peek into your financial status, but it also gives insight into your
lifestyle and personality. Whether you’re a workaholic, a take-charge, career-driven
person or someone who is less driven may be a plus or a minus in her books.
A Hedge Fund manager may have great wealth, but may not have time for a relationship
and family. A man in a creative job, such as an actor or musician, may not have the
financial security to raise a family, but may have a more flexible schedule. Finding
out about your career, the time constraints it imposes on you—whether you travel or
work late hours—gives her an indication as to how much time you would have for a
relationship and family. If you travel endlessly and work 80-hour weeks, you probably
don’t have time for her.


YOUR HOME: She is asking about your home in part to get an idea of your
neighborhood, but also to see how committed you are to that neighborhood. Whether you
prefer a yard, privacy, city living or apartment living are important factors in determining
long-term compatibility. If you see living in a downtown loft as your permanent lifestyle
and she wants children and a house in the suburbs, you may not be able to find common
ground. She also wants to know if you are living in a home you shared with another
woman. Every woman wants a fresh start with decorating and making a home her
own. Talking about the home lets her know if you are flexible and open to change. It
also shows if you have a nesting instinct if you care about your décor. All women love
decorating, so your choice in living space is a subject she can easily discuss.
Don’t be offended if she asks these three questions on a first date. While she may be
evaluating your qualifications for boyfriend or husband, she may also just want to get to
know you better.

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Reader Comments (6)

Lennie, as usual, another insightful and humorous blog. Love them! A question for you. What if the man drives a BMW and a Porsche? Also, another way you can learn alot from a man is how they pronounce the word Porsche. It is a two syllable word:) Also, men who drive convertible sports cars tend to be self absorbed ego maniacs who want to be seen. Real enthusiasts know that the handling characteristics of a coupe are far superior to that of a rag top. Keep up the good work.

August 24, 2011 | Unregistered Commentersoldier

BMW & Porsche... well aside from the obvious (good taste and decent disposable income), perhaps he's a practical family-oriented man who wishes to have uncommitted sex. But as a male reader pointed out via Twitter yesterday, all men want to have uncommitted sex!

August 25, 2011 | Registered CommenterLennie Ross

Anyone who thinks a coupe handles better than a convertible simply does not know anything about cars. Soldier, you need to stop taking the bus all the time and drive in a car now and then.

August 26, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJames Mitchell

Too funny, James. Thanks for the contribution.

August 26, 2011 | Registered CommenterLennie Ross

James, you better check your facts. As a former race car driver and NASCAR team owner, I know something about cars. I guess you must be one of those guys who drives a convertible:)

August 26, 2011 | Unregistered Commentersoldier

James, you just failed " car guy 101" with that response. Everyone who knows about cars, or does some serious driving knows convertibles just don't cut it. Sporty convertibles are purely for "posers".

January 9, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterTHAT guy

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