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Aug272011

Happiness Is Riding A Moped

Have you ever been to Europe or South America and ridden a scooter while on vacation? They’re fun, aren’t they? And, yet, you’re kind of embarrassed to admit to having ridden one and having enjoyed the experience. Welcome to the dating world!

When I set up a guy I know with a girlfriend of mine, I didn’t think about how the world would view a 60 year-old man with a smoking hot 35 year-old woman with long blond hair who wore skirts just below the water line. I was just doing what I do best, matching things up. You know square peg, square hole, round peg, round hole. Oops, did I say something vulgar?

When a date turned into a weekend tryst and a weekend tryst turned into a full-fledged love affair, I noticed how awkward they were in public together. They both thought others viewed them as the rich older guy with the young rent-a-date. While he is rich and she does love designer clothes, that was by no means the premise to their relationship. Nevertheless, they were going to restaurants where they didn’t know anyone, because each in their own way, thought the other was a moped—fun to ride, but you wouldn’t want your friends to see you riding one.

In dating, the term moped generally refers to someone who is fun to have sex with, but isn’t particularly attractive. That’s not always the case. A moped can simply be someone with whom you’re embarrassed to be seen in public for one reason or another. I have dated all types— short, tall, fat, thin, young, old—but I have never considered them mopeds. I am indiscriminate about aesthetics when it comes to dating. For me, it’s about the heart and the mind, not about the packaging. After all, the package changes over time: it can get stretched out, shriveled up, or even fade. Beauty is fleeting. Abs of steel will not stand the test of time. Even with Nip/Tuck procedures, a woman cannot be a Barbie forever, nor can a man remain a G.I. Joe.

While the term moped is highly descriptive, and rather funny, it makes me wonder why anyone would be concerned with how others might view the person they are dating. Are you that insecure that you would allow other people’s perceptions to influence your dating choices? And if so, the person you are dating likely deserves better. Real friends won’t judge you for whom you date, and who cares what strangers think? Ultimately, it’s about your happiness—and if happiness is riding a moped, then ride it hard, ride it fast and ride right into the sunset.

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Reader Comments (5)

I can relate. I dated a man who was only 10 yrs older but, because I look young for my age and he looks older, it appeared we were more like 25 years apart. I thought nothing of it until I started to notice the sidelong glances and knowing looks we got from people when we were out together.

It really was SO rude. What gives people the right to assume they know about the lives of strangers and worse still, to judge? People really need to get a life.

August 29, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAnonymous

Lennie,

As usual I love this post and I think you touch on a very key topic here. I think the most important thing is that you find your man to be attractive to you. That in itself is a chemistry thing. Having that connection/chemistry can be very natural or it can be really hard. It depends on both of you and how well you work together. But like you said, if you ARE attracted to this man, enjoy spending time with him, enjoy sleeping with him, then there should be no reason why you can't revel in that no matter WHO is watching. I think in some respects your friends may be playing on a small scale, they could really have a lot of FUN being in an unconventional relaitonship dynamic. And, like you also mentioned this depends on the maturity and self esteem of the individuals involved.

Excellent post!

Hot Alpha Female

September 1, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterHot Alpha Female

Thanks for the input Hot Alpha! Always appreciate your wisdom

September 1, 2011 | Registered CommenterLennie Ross

Thank you for the interesting article. I would love to interview you for my "Ask the Expert" video series and share your expertise with my students at Loveology University. I can't believe that you are still single ):

Dr. Ava Cadell

September 2, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterDr. Ava Cadell

Hi Dr. Ava. I would love to be a part of your video series.

September 3, 2011 | Registered CommenterLennie Ross

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