You're not fat, you're neurotic—or possibly anorexic.
Mirror Mirror on the wall, who’s the skinniest weight-obsessed bitch of them all? Not me. While I have been labeled a “Skinny Bitch” at times, I’m not and have never been weight obsessed. I’m fit—okay, extremely muscular—but not skinny. I eat carbs. I love to eat. And, knowing this, you likely hate me more. You hate me if I don’t eat. You hate me if I do. I can't win. Believe it or not, over the past 4 years I have gained 8.5% additional body fat, and I fall well within the average weight range for my body size and type. That was not always the case. There was a period of time in my teens and early twenties when I was a little heavier, and not so long ago I was actually twelve pounds lighter than I am. This was due to extreme stress and a death in the family. I looked like a heroin addict—not a Skinny Bitch.
Women waste so much time and mental energy on judging our own and other women’s bodies (see this great article from CNN). Think of all the things we could accomplish, if we focused on other things. You think Hilary Clinton and Sarah Palin got so far in politics by obsessing about their weight? I can understand how a woman who is severely overweight might call herself fat, but when a thin woman labels herself as fat or obese, it’s nothing less than repulsive. Makes me want to vomit, but alas, I’m not bulimic!
But, I am sick of hearing women saying they’re fat when they’re at most five pounds overweight. I know one girl who works out like a maniac—often hiking, doing Pilates and attending a cardio class all on the same day—who has been saying she needs to lose five pounds for the last ten years. Most women would kill to have a body like hers. If she stopped binging on candies and high fat foods, she’d shed those extra pounds in no time. I empathize with her boyfriend, because men hate it when women complain about their weight. Most men prefer a little meat on a woman, rather than the anorexic look.
There is no more apt term than Skinny Bitch for a healthy-sized woman who goes on and on about the weight she needs to lose, but one must look beyond the physical and question the emotional well being of such a woman. One in every two hundred American women suffer from Anorexia and 2%-3% of the entire female population struggle with bulimia. While that’s not as threatening as breast-cancer statistics, it’s still rather alarming and remains largely an undetected and untreated illness which can lead to other more devastating health concerns such as kidney failure, heart disease and ultimately death.
These unhealthy body image issues are largely a result of the beauty pressures society and the media put on women. I grew up with someone close to me who constantly looked in the mirror and said “fat, fat, fat”. In reality, she was in the normal zone at 5’5” and 125 lbs. Her weight obsession caused her to become anorexic and bulimic, getting down to an all time low of 93 lbs. She was hospitalized, almost died, went to endless therapists, put tremendous emotional stress on her family and friends, and to this day—even though she is lean and fit—she says “fat, fat, fat” when she passes by a mirror.
Ever since the days of Twiggy—the notoriously thin model of the sixties—and Karen Carpenter who died of anorexia, the media has been cramming thin down women’s throats instead of food. As a result, women have been cramming their fingers down their throats and throwing up so they can look nutrition-starved like celebrities Paris Hilton, Keira Knightly and Angelina Jolie. While these women may be beautiful, they are unnaturally thin and would look much better with a few extra pounds on their skeletons. I have only one thing to say to these Twiggy-obsessed celebrities: You’re not fat. You’re a skinny bitch and you need to eat a sandwich!