I’ve been waiting for a girl like you to come into my life. Bullshit! I call major frickin’ BULLSHIT on that one, motherfucker! If you really mean those words made famous by Mick Jones of Foreigner, act on them. Ladies, don’t be fooled by a guy who says all the right things, makes all the right promises, but never delivers. Actions speak louder than words.
Someone asked me recently “how many years do you have to be together before your figure out that he doesn’t want to marry you?” This reminds me of an old Tootsie Pop commercial from the 70s where a kid asks, “Mr. Owl, how many licks does it take to get to the tootsie roll center of a Tootsie Pop?” The owl answered three. If the question was, “How many years does it take to get a ring on your finger?” the owl would have answered one. That’s because owls are wise and old, just like me.
It only takes one year to figure out that a man doesn’t want to marry you. If you spend any more time waiting for your guy to realize that he’s never going to find a better woman than you, then you are doing yourself a disservice and telling him you really aren’t that amazing. The longer you wait, the more your stock goes down in value. Trust me, I’ve made this mistake. There is some truth to the old adage, “why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?” Instead of giving him milk, toss a cold glass of water in his face and move on.
It’s really simple. Wear your sexiest outfit and go for a romantic dinner somewhere and ask your boyfriend where he sees the relationship going. If he says “I dunno, I think things are kinda great the way they are” or anything remotely close to this, NEVER have sex with him again. Tell him that you value yourself too much to wait around for him to figure out what he wants. Tell him that you’re ending the relationship, because he’s wasting your time. The tough part is following through with your words, which you must do. Trust me, this will work and you will thank me later.
By ending the relationship, you are in control. You stop waiting for someone else to steer your life. You are in the driver’s seat. If you stay, you risk being dumped a few months down the road when he realizes how unhappy you are that things aren’t moving forward. Here’s where the win-win comes into play. If he really loves you and really wants to be with you, he will come back to you. If he’s smart he will bend down on one knee and propose. Another 70s reference, “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it’s meant to be.” If he doesn’t come back to you, he’s a jerk and you aren’t wasting any more of your precious youth waiting for him.