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Wednesday
Dec142011

7 Great Christmas Gifts For Men

It’s that time of year again. The time women everywhere bite their nails wondering what to get their guy for Christmas. It starts when we’re young. We have no idea what to buy our fathers for Christmas. They always say, “I don’t need anything,” which I have learned over time is just their way of trying to take the pressure off.

Truth be told, fathers do like getting gifts, but they are so difficult to buy for, so they’re often stuck with practical gifts like tube socks, underwear, ties, cologne and soap on the rope. I remember when I was about seven years old I made my brother a pair of sunglasses from red and green cellophane and black construction paper.  I’m sure he really appreciated those!

Every man is different, so there’s no such thing as the perfect gift. The most important thing is that you put a little thought into it.  If you really want to show the man you’re dating that you care, and even your father for that matter, here are a few awesome gift ideas that the men in your life are sure to enjoy:

KINDLE FIRE: Whether it’s the sports section, biographies or Stephen King’s latest masterpiece, most men like to read. The new Kindle Fire with full color 7” Multi-Touch display and Wifi is only $199 and was released just in time for the holidays. If that doesn’t fit your budget, or is simply too much flash, try a Kindle touch for only $99. 

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Saturday
Dec102011

It Takes Two…  

I read a great post recently on Maneatersblog called You Didn’t See It Coming? Really?  And I had to put in my two cents. I often overhear (in elevators, at restaurants) and read (on Facebook and Twitter) some downright NASTY comments being made by scorned women. Now, I’m sure there are just as many cuckolded men out there—women cheat too—and women leave too—but men aren’t in the habit of airing their dirty laundry publicly. They just cut their losses and move on, like they would with any other business deal gone awry. And you women who say a relationship isn’t a business relationship… bullshit! But that’s another story all together.

One of the comments I read recently went something like this:

“At first I was angry. It’s time to hit him in the pocket book! What fun I’m going to have,” and then continued with “I’m gonna get my divorce one way or another…he will regret this.”

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Wednesday
Dec072011

5 Ways To Effectively Alienate A Man

You know the movie How To Lose A Guy in 10 Days? Well, I see that and raise it by 7 days. I can show you how to lose a guy in 3 days or less. Want to alienate your man? Follow these five easy steps and you’re guaranteed to push him away and right into another girl’s arms.

WANT STUFF: I can’t stress enough what a turn off this is to a man. The more you want, the more he sees dollar signs and feels like he will never be able to satisfy your needs. Start every sentence with the words “I want” and talk about all the materialistic things you like. Constantly designer name drop and incorporate these words into your “I want” mantra: Louis Vuitton, Gucci and Chanel. Ask him if he likes shopping. Tell him you want diamond stud earrings—at least 3 carats per ear. Tell him you want an Aston Martin or an Audi R8. And don’t forget to ask him what kind of car he drives, where he lives and how much money he makes.

TALK BABIES: Whatever you do, don’t talk like a baby. Don’t say “I wuv you,” because that turns guys on. They like women who act like little girlie girls. Instead, talk about wanting babies, about fertility issues, freezing embryos, aging and menopause. Oh, and don’t forget to talk about the irregularity of your period and how many times you’ve had to pee on a stick hoping you’re not pregnant, because your period was late. Nothing turns a man off more than talking about your womanly issues.

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Wednesday
Nov162011

Four Simple Things Men Need From Women

You wanted to find a man—your knight in shining armor with his white horse—and you sought him out like a St. Bernard seeks out a trapped skier in a snowstorm. Whether it was a search and rescue mission or a search and be rescued mission doesn't matter. You have your ideal man. Now you want your ideal relationship. Here's how to achieve it.  It's simple. There is no limit to what a man will do for you if you understand his four basic needs:

MEN NEED APPRECIATION: Men need to feel appreciated. They will do many things for you from opening your car door to buying you a new car if you show them that they are appreciated. Make a conscious effort to say thank you and to tell him you appreciate him. Even simple domestic tasks like taking out the trash or stopping to pick up the dry-cleaning for you should be acknowledged. Do little things to show him you care, like buy him a 6-pack of his favorite beer, or bake him a pie.

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Wednesday
Nov092011

What Not To Do After A Break Up

According to Neil Sedaka, breaking up is hard to do. Nobody said it was gonna be easy. A woman can make a break up even harder on herself by doing the wrong things instead of the right things.  Here are three things a woman should not do right after a break up and why:

Trash Your X On Facebook: Even if you are bitter, there is no point in telling all your friends and their friends how you feel. Talking trash about your X may feel good, but it will only make you look bad, and it may alienate the people close to you. Instead, write it all out in a letter. Vent until your heart is content. Mail yourself the letter, and keep it unopened for a month. After a month, open it. You will see the progress you made and be glad you didn’t share those thoughts with your friends, family and co-workers. Then you can take a match to the letter and burn it along with those bad memories.

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Wednesday
Nov022011

5 Reasons Why Women Should Complain Less

Bitch, bitch, bitch. How often do you hear your girlfriends complaining about their lives? Face it, ladies. We like to complain. In fact, we speak in complaints. It is how we communicate. While it may work just fine when we’re around other women, it does not work with men. If you want to form a closer bond with the man in your life, you need to dial down the complaints, and learn to speak in a language he understands. Here are just a few pointers on how to communicate more effectively with your significant other:

1. MEN HATE COMPLAINTS: The words “why” and “you” in any combination will set your man on the defensive. Eliminate phrases such as “Why won’t you…”, “Why can’t you…”, and “Why don’t you…” from your dialogue. Men are competitive creatures, and when challenged they will often fight. You can still win your point, by using a different strategy. Turn complaints into compliments, by phrasing your complaints as compliments, by saying “I love it when you….” or “I really appreciate it when you…”. You get more bees with honey.

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