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3 Tips To Safe Online Dating For Women

Robyn Gardner and her boyfriendAbout a month ago, I was working out in a hotel gym. I love hotel gyms! With no audio book on my iPod and my iPad battery drained to 3%, I was left with only the TV to keep me entertained while striving for my goal of an hour on the elliptical. Sweating off the 350 calories that would allow me to justify two glasses of wine at dinner, I watched Headline News columnist Nancy Grace report on the disappearance of a beautiful blond woman in Aruba on August 2nd. The beautiful 35-year old, surgically-enhanced, unemployed blond who was missing had been accompanying, Gary Giordano, a man she hardly knew—a man who was not her boyfriend. Now, she was presumably dead.

Evidently, she knew that Gary Giordano had a history violence towards women, and yet she still agreed to go away with him. I ask myself "what the fuck was she thinking!" and, what kind of boyfriend lets his girlfriend go on vacation with another man? To a romantic, remote tropical island, no less! The whole thing sounds awfully suspicious and makes me wonder if she met her boyfriend and this Gary character on one of the many online dating sites geared towards arrangements. Robyn had recently lost her job. In this economy, one could assume she was a little desperate. Sugar daddies, friends with benefits, arrangements—whatever you want to call it—it’s dangerous! If Robyn Gardner does turn up, which by this point is highly unlikely, I hope she realizes how stupid she was being.

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5 Physical Deal Breakers For Women

Men have their deal breakers and they usually go something like this: overweight, underweight, out of shape. Most men are looking for the perfect woman with the perfect face, the perfect abs, and the perfect perky breasts. My question to them is quite simply, “Have you looked in the mirror lately?”

Women can be just as particular when it comes to physical deal breakers in a prospective partner. While we may be able to deal with little love handles or a receding hairline, there are some things we just cannot look past. Here are the top five physical deal breakers for women and how to fix them:

1. Bad Breath: Bad Breath is the number one thing women find repulsive in men, and 50-65% of people suffer from it. To keep her kissing you, use a Sonicare toothbrush to clean those hard to get places between teeth and under the gums, floss daily and brush within 20 min after eating EVERY time to avoid plaque and tartar build up. Use a tongue scraper with Breath RX  or toothpaste to kill bacteria.  Avoid mouthwash—it contains alcohol (alcohol=sugar=bacteria breeding ground). Quit smoking.  If you’re doing all the above and still have problems, they could be coming from your stomach. Eat parsley before a date. The oils will neutralize bad breath.  Also try taking a once-a-day acid reflux medication.

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3 Questions Women Ask Men

When a woman meets a man, she wants to determine whether or not he's relationship material. There are three questions she always asks: What do you do for a living? What kind of car do you drive? And, where do you live? Don't be offended guys. Sure, these questions all point towards financial status, but there are plenty of other reasons she's asking these questions.

Men like talking about themselves. It makes them feel relaxed and confident. These questions allow the man to talk and take the pressure off the woman doing all the talking, which can make her look like a “chatterbox.” She may not be sport savvy enough to talk about the Final Four or the NHL Playoffs, and she may want to avoid a heated political debate about the Middle East or the mid-term elections. And, she knows you don’t want to talk about shopping! Asking about your work, car, and home are ice-breaker subjects that are easy for you to talk about and also interesting to her.

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Woman Speak: What She Says & What She Really Means

A few months ago, my dear friend Marrie Lobel from DirtyinPublic guest-posted on my site with her blogpost: Man Speak. Today she's filling in for me again:

Most men listen to what a woman says, but rarely do they hear what she is saying.  Men, if they’re straight, remain mere yellow belts in the art of understanding women. Luckily, I’m here to help you, Grasshopper. Below is a little list to help men advance in the art of women’s speak. A few men may be masters who know what she means, others mere students…either way, you can thank me later!

Women’s Speak

Maybe = No

We need = I want

I am sorry = You’ll be sorry

I’m bored = Let’s go buy me something; let’s go shopping

I’m tired = No sex tonight   

We need to talk = You f*cked up. Be afraid, be very afraid.

Sure, go ahead = Over my dead body; Go ahead, I double dog dare you

Do what you want = Later, your ass is mine and not in a good way

I am not upset = Of course I am upset, you idiot!

You’re attentive tonight = Is sex all you ever think about?

Let’s have sex = I want to have a baby

I love you = Let’s get married


3 Ways To Break A Dating Rut

The other day when I was thinking of what dating saga I would write about next, I realized I hadn’t been on a date in a while. In fact, I hadn’t even gone online to look for a date. I guess partly because I find it insane that I have to hunt for a guy online, instead of just having it happen naturally; and partly, I just didn’t have the time. I had fallen into the most common trap. I had fallen deep into a dating rut. A dating rut is when you don't date, you don't want to date, and you don't make any effort to date. Not adviseable if you're looking for a happily ever after!

It was about time I started practicing what I preach. If you are like me and you’re tired of surfing match.com and seeing the same old profiles of the same old guys who just don’t do it for you, then take my advice—and I will endeavor to do the same.

Here are three simple ways to stir up the dating pot and kickstart your dating life. 

1. Get a life: It’s the oldest advice in the book, because it’s good advice. Pursue activities that you enjoy. Go horseback riding in Griffith Park. Sign up for conversational Italian class at the Beverly Hills Lingual Institute. I’m not saying you’ll meet a man at your Bar Method class, but doing activities you enjoy will bolster your ego, your confidence, and most importantly, get you out of the house. If you are feeling desperate and dejected, you’re not going to attract anyone. Having a life will make you feel better about yourself and will make you much more interesting to talk to when you do have that hot date.

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5 Ways To Make Your Home Chick-Friendly

We all know men and women have their differences. Example: women are into nesting and making a house a home; men are usually happy if they have a clean shirt to wear—wrinkled or not. Gentlemen, when you have an opportunity to invite a woman to your home, make sure it’s homey and inviting so she’ll feel like taking her shoes off—and perhaps a little more. Here are 5 ways to make your home more chick-friendly:

1. Keep it clean:  I don't mean hide the pornos. Though that's probably not a bad idea…until you get to know her. Wash the dishes, keep the bathroom spotless, and make your bed. Put fresh towels in the bathroom, wipe down the coffee table, and tidy up your desk and bookshelves. Before she arrives, use a room atomizer (fancy word for nice smelling spray) or light scented candles. This may sounds simple, but many guys don't realize how much a woman takes in about your living environment. She’s trying to figure out if she can ever live with you.

2. Extricate the X:  Do not have photos of your ex-girlfriend in picture frames. That will make her jealous and also make her question whether you are truly over her. Keep them tucked away in a box in the back of your closet. Get rid of the other toothbrush, the makeup, tampons and hair products she left in the bathroom drawer. And under no circumstances leave any pieces of a woman's clothing in your apartment unless you want your new relationship to be short lived. Then by all means wedge a pair of panties between the sofa cushions as that is sure to send her packing. 

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