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Wednesday
May252011

3 Male Myths About Hot Women

Here’s a little secret that I want to share with you men out there- hot, sophisticated women, particularly in their 30s and 40s, don’t get hit on as much as you think.  In this video, I'll explain three male myths about hot women and why it's actually a great idea to approach a hot women if you see her sitting alone at a restaurant having dinner.  

Myth #1: Men assume hot women are not single or there's something wrong with them. Not True. Surprisingly there are a tremendous number of hot, single women out there with nothing wrong except that they work and have little time to socialize and meet men. If she's single, it may be she's just waiting for a great guy like you!

Myth #2: Men assume she wants someone equally hot and that they're not in her league. Not True. Men are visual creatures and they check out women's body, but it doesn't mean that women evaluate men the same way. You might think she’s looking for a millionaire with a body like a guy on the cover of Muscle & Fitness, but chances are she's just looking for a great guy.

Myth # 3: Men assume that attractive women are all bitches, because they get hit on all the time. Not True. Attractive women don't get hit on as much as you'd think, because men make these assumptions and don't approach them. And often these women are approached by the sleazy guys they don't want to attract, because they're the only ones with the cohones to hit on them. It doesn’t mean she’s a bitch, just because she’s attractive. There are a lot of attractive women who are really modest about their looks. Plus since they really aren't being hit on all the time, they’re not going to be bitchy. They’re going to be flattered.

In conclusion, you should definitely approach hot women. If a hot woman may seem reserved, it's likely because she's been approached in a sleazy, sexual way so many times that she has some defenses up. Be a gentleman, talk to her like she's a person not a sex object, and she's be impressed. This is where you can benefit from other men's mistakes. 

 

Wednesday
May042011

7 Worst Dating Profile Lines For Men

Women who venture into online dating are inundated with winks and emails, often with nothing more than a comment like “I think you’re hot” or worse—a generic message that has obviously been blasted out to several women. A woman learns how to quickly scan a man’s profile for red flags so she can promptly delete (and block) those who aren’t contenders and move onto the next eligible bachelor.  Here are a few ACTUAL profile lines that I have come across that do not go over well:

1.  She must be pretty, in shape, smart, have a good heart, have a great sense of humor and love sex with the right man: What if she loves sex with the wrong man? It sounds like you’re saying “likes sex but is not a slut” and if that is what you’re saying, don’t say it!

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Wednesday
Apr272011

Lennie Gets A Spray Tan

Dating is challenging at the best of times. But, what about when you just don't feel or look your greatest and you have a big date?  Well, that's when it's time for a little liquid sunshine. That's right, a spray tan. According to Svetlana at Spray Di Sole here in Los Angeles, getting a spray tan before a date can boost self-esteem by making you look and feel great. It's can also make you look a good five pounds thinner. And, it's sugar based, so it's not bad for you. No harsh chemicals. No streaks. No looking orange. So why not? Join me as I boost my self esteem with a little Spray Di Sole tan. 

Saturday
Mar262011

Single O.B.O.

In Los Angeles, life is like a used car advertisement: $3500, or best offer (O.B.O.); Plastic surgeon with a house in the hills, O.B.O.; entertainment executive with private jet, O.B.O. Whether a party invitation, a date, or marriage, nobody is willing to commit because they are always waiting for that better offer. I find this so irritating. It is a reason to loathe this city. Try planning a dinner party when you don't know for sure who is going to attend.

When I throw a dinner, it's an occasion you want to attend, nothing but the finest wines and a meal that takes me all week to plan.I recall one time when I was hosting a dinner for eight of my close friends. A girl who I thought to be a good friend didn't show. At first I thought she was delayed by traffic, but after an hour, several messages and no reply, I assumed the worst - she had a freak car accident and was in the emergency room or there had been a death in the family. She was Canadian, notoriously reliable by nationality, so there was no way she could have just flaked. Weeks later when I finally heard from her, I discovered that I was wrong. This was one Canadian that had been in Los Angeles too long. Time to rescind her passport.

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Wednesday
Mar022011

Dancing Queen: Part Two

Lennie Takes A Lesson

Join me as I do a little cha-cha-cha with Rumen, my ha-ha-hot coyote-bait dance instructor and discover how sexy and seductive dancing can be.

Wednesday
Feb232011

Dancing Queen: Part One

Why Every Man Should Learn To Dance

I started taking ballroom dance classes at Balliamos Dance Studio in West Hollywood about a month ago. Why? I had been watching one of my idols, Pamela Anderson, a while back on Dancing with the Stars, and I figured if she could do it, so could I. At my age (yes, that remains top secret) I should already know how to do this. My parents loved to ballroom dance. I remember how graceful they looked on the dance floor and how happy my mother seemed when she was being twirled around in my father’s arms. Even as a child, I identified this as being something very romantic and intimate – a prelude to more intimate behavior. Though, ew gross… I never thought of my folks that way. They never had sex. I was a test tube baby! As I got older, I went through my own dance craze era doing the nightclub thing. Even with that alcohol-induced frenzy, I realized that dancing and sex went hand in hand. When I started ballroom, I couldn’t help but get aroused. Not just because I have a hot young dance instructor, but because the music and the movements are very sensual. So I thought I’d see what my dance instructor, Rumen, has to say about dance and romance and whether he felt that knowing how to dance gave men a leg up in the dating world. Join my now and see why it’s cool to fox-trot, two-step and tango your way into a woman’s heart.