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Entries in One Night Stands (4)

Wednesday
Nov092011

What Not To Do After A Break Up

According to Neil Sedaka, breaking up is hard to do. Nobody said it was gonna be easy. A woman can make a break up even harder on herself by doing the wrong things instead of the right things.  Here are three things a woman should not do right after a break up and why:

Trash Your X On Facebook: Even if you are bitter, there is no point in telling all your friends and their friends how you feel. Talking trash about your X may feel good, but it will only make you look bad, and it may alienate the people close to you. Instead, write it all out in a letter. Vent until your heart is content. Mail yourself the letter, and keep it unopened for a month. After a month, open it. You will see the progress you made and be glad you didn’t share those thoughts with your friends, family and co-workers. Then you can take a match to the letter and burn it along with those bad memories.

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Wednesday
Jul132011

Friend Zone or End Zone?

I was recently a guest on “'Game On”, a radio show devoted to the art of meeting and attracting women. One of the topics discussed was whether a guy should accept just being friends with a girl if his objective is either to be in a relationship with her or to have sex with her. You may think those are the same thing, but they’re not. There are boyfriends and there are fuck buddies. Either way, when a woman says she’d like to be friends she does not want to be your girlfriend or your fuck buddy. It is her non-confrontational way of saying “It’s not going to work out. I think we should move on.”

It could be that she’s seeing someone else, but more likely she just doesn’t consider you boyfriend material. Either she’s not sexually attracted to you or she detected some kind of deal-breaker behavior. You may not hear the “let’s be friends” line until the second or third date, which may add to your confusion. She may not have had enough information to make a decision after a first date, or she wasn’t strong enough to say “no” to a second date. Either way, she’s saying “no” now with “let’s be friends.” It’s important that you hear what she’s actually saying.

Everyone on the radio show concurred that the friend zone does not lead to the end zone. You may think you have your foot in the door, and it’s only a matter of time before she lets you all the way in, but that’s not the case.

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Saturday
Dec252010

Silent Night, Horny Night…  

Why women should ban the one-night stand.

During the holidays, we are prone to being lonely and more vulnerable than usual. Thanksgiving gave us time to reflect on those things we are thankful for.  With Christmas and New Year’s upon us, we obsess over the things we didn’t accomplish and desperately try to fill the voids in our lives.  If one of those voids happens to be “boyfriend”, we can make some downright foolish decisions. That’s why it’s important to keep your panties on this holiday season. Don’t start spreading your legs for every Tom, Dick and Horny you meet between now and the end of the year.  It’s not going to land you a husband and will most assuredly land you an STD.  You’re familiar with the old adage, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?”  I don’t like referring to any woman as a cow – although a few who have crossed me are deserving of the nomenclature – the point of the expression is what’s important.  What guy is going to take a woman seriously if he can get what he wants without consequence?

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Wednesday
Nov242010

Drugs, Alcohol and Porn Stars, Oh My...

With all this talk about Charlie Sheen suing porn star Capri Anderson for extortion, and Capri Anderson suing Charlie Sheen for battery, assault, and false imprisonment, it makes one reflect upon Oscar Wilde's statement that “Life imitates Art far more than Art imitates Life.”  

photo: Angela George for Sharon Graphics © 2009 www.sharongraphics.comThe fact is, Charlie Sheen is a hell of a lot like Charlie Harper, the character he portrays on the CBS show Two and a Half Men.  Which came first, the chicken or the egg…or, should we say, the sitcom star or the porn star? Sheen’s on-screen personal Charlie Harper is always engaging in drunk and disorderly conduct and dating hookers. Sounds an awful lot like what happened recently at the Plaza Hotel. Quick fact: Charlie Sheen’s second wife, Denise Richards, is widely rumored to be an alleged one-time employee of Heidi Fleiss.  Sure, Ms. Anderson claims to be a porn star, not a hooker. But, evidently porn stars do porn in order to market themselves as hookers – it’s called the Porn Star Experience (PSE). And how does one explain her $12,000 fee to hang with Sheen (who was found naked when policed arrived) in his hotel room? Honestly, where does one draw the line in defining ‘sex for money?’  Isn’t that what marriage is all about?  Well, at least that’s what most women lead men to believe until the contract is signed.  Then it becomes ‘no sex for money.’ What’s fascinating is that Charlie Sheen is idolized for being a womanizer both in Life and in Art, if you can call a sitcom art.  I love Two and a Half Men, but tragically Charlie Sheen is only half a man.  The behavior of both the real Charlie and fictional Charlie exemplifies what's wrong with the male psyche in today's society.  Amazing that one of the top sitcoms of this era, which is somewhat of a family show, promotes the chauvinistic, egocentric, asshole mentality of the typical Los Angeles male.  No wonder dating in L.A. sucks the big one - and I’m not talking about the glass dildo Capri Anderson is posing naked with at http://caprianderson.pornblogspace.com/ (caution: click on link at your own risk!).