3 Reasons Women Should Initiate Sex

I hear a lot of women in long term relationships talk about how infrequently they have sex with their man. Sometimes it’s just once a week, sometimes its only once or twice a month. And inevitably it’s the man that initiates sex. Okay, I know you’re tired, I know you’re working your butt off having a career, keeping the house together, and caring for children or pets or what have you. But, if you do not have sex with your man regularly, his mind is going to wander, and eventually his body might too. 

Here are three reasons a woman should initiate sex with her man: 

REASON #1: It will make you feel empowered and you won’t view sex as an obligation or chore. You will view it as something playful, sexy and fun. Especially, if you set the mood with candles, music and sexy lingerie. And you might just start looking forward to sex again! 

REASON #2: It will make your man feel sexy and wanted. If you make him feel special, he will perform better, he'll be in a better mood, and you'll get along better. He may even go out of his way to show you how much he appreciates you.

REASON #3:  The more you keep your man satisfied, the less likely he is to wander. He may still look at other women and think about them, but he’s a lot less likely to act on his thoughts if you keep him feeling desired. He won’t feel a need to go elsewhere to get his ego—or other things—stroked.

Check out my video to hear more of what I think on this subject, and remember: a happy man makes for a happy woman! 

Which Came First?

A friend of mine has an old style t-shirt - the kind you would buy at Crazy Shirts while on vacation in Hawaii. Only instead of saying ‘Hawaii Hang Loose’ or ‘My parents went to Hawaii and all they got me was this stupid t-shirt’, it has a cartoon of an egg and a chicken in bed smoking cigarettes with the phrase ‘which came first?’

The expression got me thinking – not so much about which came first in regard to chickens and eggs, but which came first in regard to the inconsiderate jerks and gold-digging whores who dominate the Los Angeles dating scene – and from what I’ve heard the dating scenes of New York, Miami, and several other American cities. 

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The Morning After

Okay, you got her to spend the night at your place. Now you want to make sure she keeps coming back. Great sex alone may not do the trick. Watch my video blog on how to make a simple breakfast that will knock her socks off and keep them off. The great thing about this breakfast is most of the ingredients stay fresh a long time and are easy to keep on hand - just incase she spends the night. Here's a list of ingredients you will need:

• French bread
• 2 eggs
• milk
• butter and/or canola oil
• coffee
• tea
• 4-6 valencia oranges
• half bottle of champagne
• real whipped cream (in a canister)
• Fresh strawberries, blueberries, raspberries
• cinnamon (optional)
• powdered sugar (optional)
• maple syrup (optional)

My First Video Blog, or Vlog?

I thought it was about time people got to know the woman behind the words, so I figured I'd say "hello" in a little video introduction. For those who are new to my blog, I post a story every Saturday morning, and so far, I'm keeping up with also posting on Wednesdays as well. My Saturday blogs are usually a dating horror story, and my Wednesday blogs are usually more advice oriented or heart-felt in nature.I hope you enjoy the new layout of my site.I wanted to convey Los Angeles and love - a tricky combination at the best of times - which is why I used red and some Los Angeles images.In the upcoming weeks, I'll start video blogging on a more regular basis, sharing some dating tips and providing insight into the LA dating scene.  

Catch and Release

Spill wine all over my coat and handbag and don't offer to pay for cleaning, complain about the price of the duck a half-dozen times, make several references to sex and your dick size, talk only about yourself and never inquire about my life, don’t offer to pay for my parking or even walk me to the valet and then text me at 4a.m. after I told you I hate it when people text me between the hours of 11p.m. and 8a.m. Do just one of these things and you’re not likely to get a second date, but all of them in one evening? I hit the jackpot – all this from a man near fifty: from a generation where most mothers stayed at home and raised their children. He has no excuse for being an asshole.  Why are people so completely lacking in social graces these days? Do I have to move to the Midwest, or perhaps Europe, to find a courteous man? 

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7 Tips to Getting Your Girlfriend a Great Christmas Gift

There is nothing worse than watching your girlfriend open her gift and give you a fake smile as she says “Cool, thanks” and tosses it aside.  Okay there is one thing worse. She could say “What in f@#k made you think I’d want a toolbox for Christmas?” and storm out of the room. If your girlfriend is dropping hints about needing repairs done around her apartment, you’re a real tool if you buy her a toolbox. What she is saying is “it would be really great if you could fix my leaky faucet for me” not “I’d love a Black & Decker drill set for Christmas.”

Here’s a simple shopping suggestion: Listen to what she says and pay attention to what she wears. 

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